What often leads to someone choosing to investigate suspicions of infidelity by hiring a surveillance detective from Surrey is odd, out of character behaviour. However, distrust doesn’t always come from a spouse – whether that be husband or wife – it can sometimes come from the lover, who is trying to find the source of unexplained behaviour in their new relationship.
Traditionally, many single people would not be interested in a relationship with someone who already has a partner, so the cheater has two sets of people to keep up the pretence, however, according to , there is a trend that’s changing this – making cheating more risk-free.
It’s most specifically the case with straight, heterosexual men, who are using the phrase ‘polyamory’ to explain away dishonesty and avoid any secondary relationships moving beyond a physical relationship.
A 2016 YouGov poll found that 31 per cent of women and 38 per cent of men believe that their ideal relationship was non-monogamous.
However, as Jasmine Andersson, the writer of the article, points out, there’s a clear difference between someone who may identify as polyamorous on the first date and those using it to avoid commitment.
Speaking to someone who identifies as polyamorous, the writer finds out that actually a polyamorous relationship requires far more open dialogue and commitment: “This isn’t another term for taking on a mistress or seeing someone behind your partner’s back. This requires more commitment than monogamous relationships do – and it can’t be entered by force.”
Knowing that this relationship might not be right for you, and without feeling the pressure of being ‘un-progressive’ might just help to identify a partner who is, in all reality, a cheat.